Expecting a second baby can be an exciting time but it can also be equally daunting. This is especially the case when you have a busy toddler. Enjoying your pregnancy this time around might be a lot harder when your toddler demands your attention.
Dealing with the physical challenges and meeting these demands can easily take its toll.
So how can expecting mothers with younger children continue being there for their little ones and make the most of their pregnancy?
Involve your child in the journey
Breaking the pregnancy news to your toddler may not be an easy process, and their reaction might startle you. But making them aware that they are going to be a big sister or brother may be essential. According to Today’s Parent, there are age-appropriate ways to tell your child that you are pregnant.
When they are aware that you are forming a human life inside your body, they might, in turn, be a lot more understanding of your fatigue or other pregnancy niggles. This is, however, not guaranteed, especially with kids being so different.
You can even do pregnancy exercises with your child, and they might even enjoy it.
Bring out the cavalry
Asking for help is a weakness for a lot of mothers, who don’t ask out of restraint of “bothering” people. You would be surprised how many people are willing to help and are just waiting for you to ask. If you just need a nap or help with chores around the house, ask help from your partner, family, or friends. Asking for assistance does not make you weak, but there is strength that lies in acknowledging that you cannot do it all on your own.
Encourage independent play
According to the website, Peaceful Parent Confident Kids, “children are highly competent beings capable of doing far more than many gave them credit for.” Asking your child to help you with chores in the house, and giving them toys that encourage their imagination will be helpful.
These toys may include:
- Tea sets
- Play kitchens
This does not mean they will play alone the whole time. Sometimes, you might be invited to a tea party, and it is crucial that you give them your undivided attention when this happens. Honour the invitation and be fully present.
Manage playtime to preserve energy
It’s no secret that young children are bursting with life and energy. They, therefore, want to run around and use up some or most of it. At this point, it is hard for you to keep up. If they want to run around, you can take them outside for playtime. If you can’t go outside, have some games ready that you can do indoors that don’t require you to use up too much of your energy.
Some great ideas include:
- Colouring books
- Reading books
- Watch movies or their favourite cartoon
Karabo Mokoena is a wife, a girl mom, a writer and content creator. She is the Resident Contributor for Parenty and a Mommy Blogger, creating relatable parenting content for her blog Black Mom Chronicles. You can engage with her on her Instagram and Facebook pages. She is a Political Science graduate, who has worked in Human Resources for most of her professional career. She loves engaging with people, thus her choice to specialise in recruitment. She loves telling stories and sharing her life’s journey to brighten someone else’s day