Basetsana Kumalo has shared heart-breaking details of the twin babies she lost many years ago, hoping to raise more awareness of the importance of self-love and self-care this Mental Health Awareness Month.
In a moving LIVE book reading from her autobiography, Bassie – The Journey of Hope, on Instagram last night (15 October), the former Miss SA, TV personality and business woman reflected on the depression she suffered after she miscarried 13 years ago.
“It was mayhem. Drips, injections, it was absolute chaos in the ward. We tried everything but I went into labour – the babies were just 20-weeks-old, twins. I could feel their every move. I could feel their gentle flutters, the Braxton Hicks…They were such an intimate part of me for 20 weeks. But they didn’t survive”.
She related that the doctors put her into a labour ward and gave her the option of a general anaesthetic or a Caesarean, “but I said, ‘no, I don’t want to go home with a scar and no babies’,”
Bassie opted to go into labour and gave birth to her babies “even though I knew I wasn’t going to be able to take them home”.
She said she delivered her babies – a boy and a girl – but when a nurse came and asked her if she wanted to see them, she said, “No. Let them go in peace.”
“Romeo [her husband], was there every step of the way” but “I went into deep depression after losing my babies”. She said she couldn’t get out of bed and questioned herself about what she could have been done to save them.
“I tried to process it all but you can’t think straight,” she said. “I tried therapy and the therapist wanted to put me on anti-depressants but I thought had to process for myself, that somehow it would manifest itself.”
Bassie continued to disclose how important it is for her to encourage people to be more understanding of mental health issues, like depression after pregnancy loss.
In the caption to her post, which has gone viral, she writes: “I stand in one voice with our leaders in the call to educate the public about mental health and encourage all of us to be more understanding of each other. To reduce the stigma and discrimination that people with mental illness are often subjected to.
“I have shared my own journey with depression openly in my book, and reflected on my recovery in last night’s LIVE book reading. Vulnerability is not weakness. It is the necessary door that opens us to heal our darkest places.”
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