I’m 27, have 6 kids and love being a mom- Moniqe Fiddes opens up about being a mother

This South African born pop-star, who hails from Witbank signed her first independent deal with a South African record company in 2009, releasing her first album in 2010, called “Ek kan”. Her hit single “Tell me Y” reached over 230 000 views within the first 2 months.

Because of her singing career, Moniqe had to leave school after finishing Grade 10 when she was only 16-years-old. She later went on to complete her TV and Drama diploma.

Moniqe first fell in love with singing after watching a movie called Selena when she was 8-years-old. The movie inspired her to dream big. In a 2017 interview with People Magazine, she said the best advice she ever received was “to never give up on dreaming and believing – as the sky is your limits, be yourself, be unique & never settle to try to blend in as you are made to stand out and make a difference in this world, even if it’s only for one person.”

She married husband, Matt Fiddes in 2012 who is one of the most respected experts in the international world of martial arts and fitness. Matt’s achievements have seen him honoured at the highest level, after being inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame. He was also presented with the prestigious ‘Martial Arts Superstar Award’. While he has numerous celebrity clientele including actors, supermodels and singers, his biggest client was superstar Michael Jackson. Matt was Michael’s personal UK bodyguard for over a decade before his tragic death in June 2009.

Moniqe and Matt Fiddes

Moniqe and Matt

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With an interesting family like theirs, we’re sure you’re just as curious as us to find out a little more about this hot mama.

What does being a mom mean to you?

Everything really. To be brutally honest, I never wanted kids of my own, that’s why when I got married to my husband Matt, he already had three great kids with his ex-wife so I was quite happy to settle without having any of my own. Until about 6 months into my marriage I wanted my own baby… Never did I think I would end up having three of my own! My husband is banned from being near me in March as all my babies were born in December (haha).

You’re a mom of 3 and stepmom to 3, all before the age of 28. How do you manage 6 children?

I think being a stepmom teaches you a lot about kids. I don’t look at them as my step kids, I see them as my own kids. I would literally do anything for them. They have been a part of my life for almost 9 years. Savannah was 4, Lola 5 and Madison 8 when Matt and I got together.

Now there are 6 in total and they all treat each other like brothers and sisters and not half-sisters and brothers. They never mention or talk about being half siblings, and as for us, they are all the same.

Moniqe and Matt with their kids

Moniqe and Matt with their kids Mayella (1), Hero (4), Zack (6), Savannah (13), Lola (14) and Madison (16)

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How did you adapt to becoming a step-mom?

It’s been part of our relationship from the start so for me it just happened naturally.

What important life lessons do you believe your children should learn at an early age?

Appreciate everything and every moment in life, and never take anything for granted. Seek for the good in everything.

What personality trait do you most admire in each of your boys, Hero and Zack?

Hero – I love his cheekiness.

Zack – I adore his kindness and the little gentleman that he is.

They are both mini versions of Matt.

Moniqe Fiddes

Moniqe and Matt with Mayella, Hero and Zack

What has been the biggest challenge when it comes to being a mom?

Making sure you always seem “okay” when sometimes you feel like everything is a bit too much.

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What is the best advice you have for new parents?

Don’t plan how to be the best parent, it will just happen naturally. Every day is a new learning curve, it’s part of your family puzzle. Take your time to build it piece by piece and make sure to enjoy it as time goes by way too quickly and kids really do grow up in the blink of an eye.

How would you describe yourself as a parent?

I really don’t know how to describe myself as a parent. I try my best and despite having 6 children, I’m still learning every day.

Any more children planned for the future?

Mmm… I’m not going to answer this one as the last time with Hero I said ‘no’ to everyone who asked this exact question and then I ended up having to face every one with a pregnant belly (I was pregnant with Mayella).

Moniqe’s album, Colourful, is now available on iTunes, Spotify and all other digital platforms.

Moniqe Fiddes Colourful

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