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Kate Beckinsale opens up about her miscarriage – and sends her love to Chrissy Teigen

Our hearts broke last week when model and cookbook author Chrissy Tengen and her hubby, musician Jon Legend shared they’d lost their son Jack. Now Kate Beckinsale has opened up about her own experience with pregnancy loss in support of the couple, who have come under fire on social media for sharing intimate photos of the loss of their baby.

In an emotional Instagram post on the weekend, the actress who shares a 21-year-old daughter Lily Mo with ex Michael Sheen, sent her love and support to Chrissy.

“I’ve noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby,”  Kate wrote in a moving caption. “As if there’s some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable.”

She revealed that years ago she’d lost a baby at 20 weeks. “I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known,” Kate continued. “There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture.”

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Kate went on to describe the feeling of loss following a miscarriage as “the loneliest, most soul-destroying period of time.”

“Your milk comes in, with no one to feed,” she explained, noting that the experience can be particular tough “if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has.”

She reminded critics that it should be an honour to be allowed into another person’s grief, especially with a subject like this, which often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn’t for you, come to a bloody and terrible halt.

She added, “Thank you @chrissyteigen for making sure it is abundantly clear how devastating this is, and how life changing it can be without support. Let’s let the grieving decide what’s right for them. Send support or keep quiet. This is a really hard time to bear…”

Kate also shared a handwritten note on pregnancy loss on Instagram.

“Some babies are born to be angels and given Heaven instead. They are carried inside the hearts of broken-hearted parents and their families forever; learning to fly with wings in paradise, where nothing can hurt them, instead of learning to walk on Earth,” read the message.

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I’ve noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby. As if there’s some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable. Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known. There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture. Your milk comes in, with no one to feed. It can be the loneliest, most soul destroying period of time, particularly if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has. I think it’s an honour to be allowed into another persons grief, especially with a subject like this which so often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn’t, for you ,come to a bloody and terrible halt. Sending so much love to the Legend family, but also so much to the women and couples who have kept it quiet and suffered. I know there are so many. Thank you @chrissyteigen for making sure it is abundantly clear how devastating this is, and how life changing it can be without support. Let’s let the grieving decide what’s right for them. Send support or keep quiet . This is a really hard time to bear .Blessings and hugs to all x

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Chrissy Teigen lost her baby last week after she was put on best rest, and later hospitalised when she started bleeding excessively. Despite several blood transfusions, she shared that “It just wasn’t enough”.

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We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough. . . We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital.  But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack.  So he will always be Jack to us.  Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever. . . To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive.  We will always love you. . . Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers.  We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you. . . We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience.  But everyday can’t be full of sunshine.  On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.

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