Ah mothers-in-law – sometimes you love them, sometimes you hate them. As a new mom you’re super-sensitive about getting the motherhood gig right and if there’s one person who knows how to push all the wrong buttons it’s your mother-in-law.
And sometimes, which is even worse, they don’t even want to be involved at all as this mom shares below.
“I have 3 beautiful kids and I wouldn’t say I hate what my mother-in-law does because hate is a powerful word, but I would say it saddens me and breaks my heart. I’m married to her eldest son and to be honest, before we got married he did so much for his Mom and family, but when I had my firstborn son she didn’t care to visit him or spend time with him and it broke my heart so much because my husband was so over his mom and for his mom to treat his firstborn so cold hit him really hard. With our daughter, when she does show up, she forgets her name – that’s how little she sees her grandkids and they don’t say grandma they call her auntie because they don’t really know her. I remember visiting her with my firstborn one day. I was so tired. I just needed some sleep. I mean it was my first time being a mother and I was so tired, so I went over to her place and when I got there she said that she’s busy. She never took her grandchild from me. I left there still feeling tired. My heart breaks thinking about how little time she has for my kids.”
The shame game
“My son was premature and at seven weeks I finally managed to wean him off formula to breastfeeding. My MIL said to the baby, with me there, ‘Shame sweetheart, is your mother starving you?’”
The telling typo
“She spelt my daughter’s name wrong and got her age wrong on her first birthday card!”
“Juggling a newborn and a toddler is not easy and sometimes I just need to vent. When my MIL visits she says things like, ‘Some people moan about how hard motherhood is, but I just got on with it.’”
The ultimate multitasker
My MIL was talking to our helper, in front of me, and said, ‘You know, I did all my own housework and looked after my kids, and I managed just fine.’”
My way or the highway
“We’re Jewish and my Christian MIL keeps sneaking my kids books about Jesus.”
“My baby was screaming for his bottle, so in a rush I spilt some formula on the counter. My MIL hovered around until I cleaned it up before letting me go to my son.”
The baby whisperer
“My MIL always spoke through my newborn to get her point across to me: ‘Are you hungry? Is mommy not feeding you enough? Are you cold, is mommy not dressing you warm enough?’”
The anti-C-section campaigner
“My MIL sent me weekly messages about why I shouldn’t have a C-section. She told me she even had a discussion with her art class about my poor choices.”
The intuitive MIL
“My MIL babysat my four-month-old for a few hours while I took my toddler to a party. I left her with two bottles of precious expressed milk. When I got home, the baby was hysterical, the bottles were untouched and she said, ‘I didn’t think she was hungry.’”
Say it like it is
“We were looking through photos of my newborn, now a toddler, and my MIL said, ‘I’m so glad she’s cute now, she was ugly as a newborn.’”
The control freak
“On my first night home from hospital with my son, my MIL told me that he was going to sleep in her room that night.”
The snidy comments
“My MIL comments on everything I do since my daughter was born. Comments like ‘Oh I see parenting has changed since my day.’ Or to my daughter: ‘You are so lucky to be spoilt and overindulged.’ Everything is through a smile or under her breath.”
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